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Lights! Camera! Action!

This is how I am beginning to treat myself in my daily life.

For most of my life, I have been taught, and maybe you can relate, that you are supposed to go through this cliche path of life:


    1. Growing up respecting the fact that everything someone else felt should be my reality.

    2. Having this necessity to work for someone else while helping them achieve financial freedom (corporate America). (This actually caused me to descend into stress and a minimal gain of financial support).

    3. Earning a college degree which in most cases, adds you to the percentage of those who end up with a financial burden called student loan debt. Not always the income you deserve.

    4. Get married, have kids, etc. A society making it so that if you have never been a part of this roller coaster or God forbid it didn’t work, you are some weird outsider.

This list could go on, but I digress. 

Here are the 3 things we, as single moms, are able to do to have the life we want: 

1). Lights

It is time that we understand that we are the only ones who can make any positive changes in our lives.

You have these ideas of how you would like your life to play out. However, have you begun the strategy?

Do you understand that it is more about having the thought, setting the goal, creating the strategy to achieve then working toward its reality?

This part of the journey to create the life we want and deserve now has the lights shown on it. It has now become a reality, something we feel we deserve.


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2). Camera
The next stage is for you to actually start to envision the life or skill you want to achieve. 

The best way to know exactly what you want is to see it, whether it is tangible or imagery.


Find it, sketch it, and take it in visually. 
Picture it.

One of the hardest times for me when I was thinking through the process of changing my life. 

It wasn’t that I didn’t believe or see the vision I had for myself, either. 

It was more about me believing that it was possible for me.

I saw others’ lives change right before my eyes. 
Not that I didn’t see or believe that there was work involved, but I saw or didn’t see to what level.

It basically seemed that whatever they were doing seemed easy. So, seeing is definitely believing.

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3). Action

Where it all happens…

It is that time. Time to make it happen. Time to put it all in perspective. Time to put those thoughts into action. Begin to write down those thoughts. 

Don’t worry about the order of things or if it will sound right or make sense to anyone else (we all do that sometimes when we are planning and strategizing, but no more). 

Below is a Focused Goals Journal you can use to write down your next best goals right here! Created by me and sold on Amazon for just $6.99, paperback and 100 pages! (Click below)

You will have time to reread and decide what actually stays and what goes. Or what you will work on now or what will be the latter pieces.

Making your mind up to take the leap. Going through with the strategies or whatever you may call that next move.

Working on it daily. Not caring if it is just to write out some thoughts or some physical task.
Action is necessary.

Your action is necessary.

Doing it now. Doing it scared. Doing it because you are deserving.

All work when pushing toward your goal.


You have heard it before. It won’t happen unless you do it. No one will change your life but you.

There are so many excuses not to have the life you want and deserve.

However, there are twice the reasons to make it a reality.

You choose because no one else will.

Tiffany Jasper
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